Celebrating Love without conditions
The voice on the other end of the phone was hesitant.
“Hi, Rev. Deb? We’re looking for someone to officiate our wedding. It’s going to be very small and simple. I should tell you… we’re both women. Is that a problem?”
I hear it far too often—the pause, the shaky breath, the nervous confession. Even now, in 2025, so many couples still brace themselves for rejection when all they want is to celebrate their love.
And honestly? It breaks my heart.
Why is this still happening? Because too many couples have called an officiant only to be met with judgment. They’ve been told they’re an “abomination,” lectured with twisted bits of scripture, or shamed by people who should know better. This is Canada—same-sex marriage has been legal here for 20 years. And yet, some still cling to an old, harsh interpretation of faith instead of embracing what Jesus actually taught: love one another.
Take one of my favorite stories, told in both Matthew and Luke. A Roman centurion comes to Jesus, desperate for help. His beloved servant is ill. The word used for servant—pais—can mean child, boy… or, in this context, a male companion. Jesus knew what it meant. And you know what He did? He didn’t judge. He didn’t hesitate. He simply healed.
That’s it. Compassion. No conditions. No disclaimers. Just love in action.
So when a couple calls me, voice trembling, waiting for the “but,” I stop them right there. I tell them: “You’re safe here.” Because I’m not just an ally—I’m part of the rainbow community too. And while I love all my couples, I do have a special place in my heart for those who’ve been made to feel their love isn’t welcome.
Here’s the truth: your love belongs. It always has. And at The Wee Wedding Cottage, we’ll honor it with the celebration it deserves.
Bring your love. I’ll bring the “yes.”
with lots of Love,
Rev. Deb
Wedding Officiant, Joy-Spreader, and Keeper of the Wee Wedding Cottage
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